Rayner wrote this to a friend in May 2007. The friend’s name has been omitted to protect his privacy.
Dear ____,
One of the reasons why I needed to know more about your wife's birthing experience
was that it did occur when the midwife was away from your wife's room. The midwife was also under the impression that
your wife was in no way ready to give birth. I wonder if there was anyone else in the room at the time that your wife gave
birth? If so, was it a friend or someone who your wife was very comfortable with? [I would not normally ask such impertinent
questions but you did write about this in your book, and I hope that you and your wife realise that this is not an unimportant
question for me.
This is quite a common experience. Labouring mothers arrive at the hospital or the birthing
centre only to be told that they are far too early, birth is still hours away. They are then sent away and quite commonly
they give birth in the taxi or car, much to the consternation of the accompanying attendant, be it husband or boyfriend.
If I did not have any suggestions for providing a relatively painfree alternative to chemical anaesthesia, I would
not be suggesting that such alternatives be explored, and if found to be useful and harm-free to be recommended for use in
hospitals and birthing centres. My main concern is, that they would be considered to radical to use.
The first
alternative was Neuro-stimulation. I found this while researching in 1964 in the Reading Room of the British Museum. I was
checking all entries for non-chemical anaesthesia and while there were plenty for hypnotism, there was one entry for using
a very weak current,which passed into the mastoid processes, and the orbital ridges on the head. [Leduc, S., Production of
sleep and general and local anaesthesiaby intermittent current of low voltage. Arch.d'Electri Med., 10.617-621. 1902,
Bordeaux.] (On my website there is more about the Neuro-stuimulator on “INT 1- Inventions.”)
This
device was only successful for 80 percent of his patients. Obviously anaesthetics must be 100 percent effective so his device
was never seriously considered for use. I had a hunch that the problem lay in his use of a fixed frequency of current employed.
So I had a machine constructed that employed a variety of wave forms, frequencies, band widths etc., and this proved to be
successful as long as one took the time to twiddle the controls until the patient went into a deep anaesthetised state.
The second method was to ensure that the birthing mother never met anyone other than someone she trusted, and who
would not arouse the fear, fight or flight response. Once she had gone into labour. Professor Odent uses this method quite
frequently. According to a patient of his, when Odent is called to his patients home or birthing centre the first thing he
asks for is, 'Where is my bed?' Most births take place after dark as you probably know.
He then goes to
bed, and if asked is he going to examine the labouring mother he will retort to the enquirer, [No, why is she sick?] After
receiving a positive reply he will then sleep after telling the birth attendant to wake him when the mother goes into labor
or if she becomes anxious. When he is awoken with the news that birth is imminent he will stand behind the door so that the
mother cannot see him and will then guide the mother through the birthing process as long as there is no pain or undue anxiety.
This is of course if the mother needs such guidance. In this manner he avoided stimulating the fear, fight or flight reflex,
and inhibiting the birth from taking place, much as I surmise happened to your wife..
I based my idea on providing
private, furnished rooms that would be attached to a hospital or birthing centre, on Professor Odent's work. Labouring
mothers would go into the room without seeing or being greeted by nurses or physicians. This would only apply to a healthy
mother who had been checked with prenatal examinations on previous visits to the birthing centre. The accompanying attendant
or husband would see to the paperwork and then rejoin the mother in the birthing room.
The third method I discovered
at the birth of my eldest daughter, Fonda, twenty-five years ago. My wife went into labour and as we were having a home birth
I got the waterproof sheet out and laid it over the carpet. My wife had gone into the squatting position and as she was quite
heavy with child I did not think I could get her to the bedroom. She then asked me to phone for the midwife and I thinking
of course that we could save ourselves some money, started to query her need for a midwife. She looked at me with a ferocious
glare and repeated the 'Get me the midwife.' I did so and when the midwife arrived, everything stopped.
I had difficulty in believing how rapid a transformation had come over my wife, she straightened from the crouch and walked
into the bedroom and laid on the bed. I looked closely at her and realised that she had gone into the fear, fight or flight
mode. Acting entirely on instinct, I asked the midwife to go and talk with some friends who had also arrived as my wife and
I needed to clear the air.
She did so, and then I told my wife something that I had withheld from her, she flew
into a rage, hit me very hard and shrieked with outrage. I got a pillow between us and directed her to beat the pillows strenuously.
At the same time, again quite instinctively, I got down on my hands and knees and began to make some very deep grunting noises
from my gut. She did the same that triggered more rage. She beat that pillow for about twenty minutes, and then everything
was back to her labour. By
the way, she also told me something that she had also withheld from me, and I burst into tears.
Looking back I, although her husband, was in some respects a predator to her. She was part Hawaiian and I was a Caucasian,
as was the midwife. Many Hawaiians resented the Caucasian take-over of their lands and the banning of their religion and language.
So subliminally,I as a Caucasian was a predator in the Hawaiian's unconscious (as well as in many cases consciously, too.)
With my dissolving into tears I ceased to be any threat and once she had discharged the adrenaline that was preventing labour
from progressing easily, the baby, Fonda, shortly arrived. She came with eyes open, alert and intensely curious.
The presence of midwife and friends no longer inhibited my wife's labour. While I was waiting with my hands ready to
receive her, the midwife having established that the cord was free and not round her neck, I began to lose myself into those
loving and yet wise eyes of my first born.
I am adding on a brief article and some references that you may find
of interest. (On my website this is the article found on the page CB 2- "Scandalous.")
